What do goals have to do with the separation of Church and State?

January 9, 2014 at 8:06 am

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year to you!


New Goals, New Sharing… but what do goals mean without the energy behind them? Read more to find out how I turn it around.

Every year, I take my clients on a journey of self-discovery and new beginnings. Often, they don’t know what it is that I am doing, but something deeper inside asks them to trust me, to trust the process, to learn to trust themselves more.
The process of setting and achieving goals is one that goes back in time. My personal opinion is that goals are a socially acceptable way to set very clear and specific prayers for yourself, your teams and your organizations. Here, in the United States, there is a formal separation between what is known as church and state. This is where prayer is not allowed in the schools or in any government entities. You may wonder what this has to do with goals. I look at my goals as prayers. They are very clear, very specific, and I know the reasons WHY I am moving in that direction. All components of prayer work for me, and thus my goals are allowed to take on a new form for me personally, aka prayers, and be socially acceptable in the work place.

Goals are not required for success. Clarity is. Goals are not required to be specific. Clarity is. You see, clarity is a keystone for knowing yourself, what it is you are doing and where you are heading. Having and keeping a process for goal setting can develop all of these.

I love my process of goal setting, intention setting, and goal forming. Use whatever words that work for you. What matters most is the feelings behind the words. Do you feel anxiety or stress around NOT having your goal achieved. Is so that is a problem. Reframe your goal!

How you feel about what you are doing, or going for, is always the momentum that will help guide your goals into reality. This process really is about making what seems impossible, possible. It is about making the intangible, tangible. Both success and happiness are made from this process.
Three key steps to keep in mind for your 2014 goals:

1. Get out of your head! If you are keeping your goals up in your head, good luck on them becoming your reality. Take the time now. Write them down, you will be glad you did.

2. Know why your goal is your goal. Don’t settle for the first few things that come to your mind. Go 5 why’s deep with each goal you have. This process will help you become clear as to why you have it on your list. If you start to struggle with why you are making it a goal, it is a great indication you might not be fully committed to what you think you want.

3. Keep your goals private, not secret. There is a difference between being private with your goals and not sharing at all. It is ok to share your dreams and desires; however, some people appear to be supportive of goals, but the undertone is one of questioning, “Who do you think you are.” You know the type. A simple rule of thumb for goal sharing is if they don’t have their goals written down, then you don’t share. If they do, have an incredible goal sharing conversation. It’s sure to be one that all remember.

Keep me posted on what you think about what I have shared. I guarantee you, I have my goals written and ready to become my reality.