Tips to encourage good behavior in others

February 13, 2012 at 4:43 pm

 

In many ways, leaders can encourage good behavior in others. Working with employees is likened to child rearing, but the tendency is to scold or nag. This may push people away. Here are a few tips to encourage the behavior you want to see:

Feed Forward – By finding people doing things right, look for positive behavior. Do this at least 10 times a day. You can track this by putting 10 coins/or business cards in your pocket. Each time you find someone doing something “right”, move one coin/business card to the other pocket. The shift from a negative to positive focus in your attention will energize you. This will allow you to provide meaningful feedback. As you continue to “feed forward”, it is likely you will make someone’s day

Fill Up – Change always starts with you. If you want to encourage others, start by noting the things that encourage you. Find what makes you happy and empowered. Increase these uplifting activities. Use self-awareness as an indicator of what you need to do differently. The idea is to be “in sync” with your own feelings.

 


Q & A with Suzanne

January 27, 2012 at 8:04 am

Question: what if the entire team has bad behavior and the leader does not empower the team?
Answer: The best way to influence others is to begin establishing your own leadership. Step one is to take responsibility. There is no true leader if they are not taking responsibly. The moment one begins to complain, blame, or point the finger at other people for the problem, is the moment that responsibility and authority is lost. Taking responsibility means that you begin to see yourself as the solution. Ask yourself these questions: What do I have the power to change? How is my attitude impacting the situation in a positive or negative manner?

Once you begin to realize that the best place of influence is looking at yourself and what you can adjust and change, you begin to step into a powerful place of leading. The bottom line is empowerment is taken up by employees, rarely given.

Experience the Wonder of Equus

January 26, 2012 at 7:44 am

Weekend Retreat: March 3rd or 4th, 2012
Time: 9 AM – 4 PM
Where: Diamonds in the Rough Horse Rescue 19251 Bob White Road, Windsor, VA 23487

In pertnership Sievert Serices, In Sync is proud to bring this special event to VA.

Discover the energy of leadership and presence! The equus experience will heighten self-awareness, build confidence, and improve communication skills. Combine coaching with nonverbal interaction for powerful lessons in being fully present. Through the wonders of the equus experience, flow with life and become in sync.

Tap Into Your Vibe

Horses are wise teachers and immediately provide accurate and genuine feedback. They live in the moment, which makes them powerful messengers.

Equus Coaching opens non‐verbal and verbal communication. Since 80% of all communication is non-verbal, the equus experience offers an opportunity to lead with intention and improve self-trust. This will unveil your assertiveness, creative thinking, problem‐ solving, leadership, responsibility, teamwork, confidence, and command presence.

You will:

Experience the power of setting intention

Gain strategies for focus and presence

Learn the secrets of non‐verbal communication for building trust and increasing leadership

Reach a new sense of clarity and power

Discover ways to remove barriers to your success

 

Fees for this Event: PAY WHAT YOU WANT!  Yes that ios right…. we want you to pay what you can afford so you can have this amazing experince.

Location: Diamonds in the Rough Horse Rescue

Where: Diamonds in the Rough Horse Rescue 19251 Bob White Road, Windsor, VA 23487

 

Note: All exercises with the horses will take place on location. There will be NO RIDING during the workshop; no prior experience with horses is necessary. All sessions may be videotaped for review and coaching purposes. You will be offered the option of a follow up coaching call and video review. The call will consist of self-discovery to further explore valuable information about your experience.

 

This event is in partnership with Suzanne Weinstein of In Sync Consulting

and Renee Sievert, RN, MFT, of Sievert Services


What is Leadership and Horse Sense?

January 24, 2012 at 8:40 am


The most important assessment you will ever take as a leader will be during your one-on-one encounter with a horse. “Horse sense” is the innate ability to accurately read an individual’s intentions, confidence, actions, and motivation with immediate precision and definitive accuracy. For this reason, the equus experience provides personal insight that reveals heightened levels of self-awareness. As prey animals, their species survival depended on herd dynamics. As such, horses have an honest appreciation for true leadership within teams. The experience differs greatly from attending seminars to immediately processing your own personalized lessons uniquely specific to your present leadership struggles.

In practical wisdom, leadership and horsemanship are one in the same. Many leaders believe, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.” When leaders meet resistance, they respond with charm, manipulation, and force to manage membership compliance. They are challenged with the task of creating, inspiring, facilitating, communicating, acting, and providing for their teams. Leaders personally wonder how to best guide the direction of their team.

As an expert in group relations and team development I am always on the look out for how my clients can get results easier. Equus Coaching is it! It packs into hours that which can take days/months/years to learn using traditional practices. Simply put,  In Sync partners with others to convey leadership theory  and application using horses as the tool, coaching as the method. The learning is easily transferable to daily corporate life. Try it, you will be amazed.


I Promise, It Is Not What You Think!

August 1, 2011 at 6:44 pm

“It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through.”

Zig Ziglar

10 Big Lessons from a 30-Day Cardio Challenge (20 minutes daily)

I first decided to do a 30 day challenge when I watched this video (http://www.ted.com/talks/matt_cutts_try_something_new_for_30_days.html?awesm=on.ted.com_9Obv&utm_campaign=matt_cutts_try_something_new_for_30_days&utm_medium=on.ted.comtwitter&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_content=ted.com-talkpage).

Watching this video  got me to think … what do I want to do but I haven’t made time for? For me, it was an easy decision. I’ve wanted to get cardio integrated back into my daily workout regimen. 20 minutes, on face value, seems simple enough. So there it is… 20 minutes of cardio daily.

Little did I know that this 30 Day Challenge would create many AHA Moments. AHA moments are those moments where your say to yourself “AHA, I didn’t know that!” or “Aha so that’s how it is”. Either way if you are open to learning AHA moments happens daily. For me the 30-Day Challenge of introducing cardio back into my health program was much more involved emotionally, physically and mentally than I anticipated.

10 Things I learned (or was reminded of) from my 30-Day Cardio journey.

1.   The body is ever forgiving- the body is an amazing instrument to be appreciated and honored. After less than two weeks I could measure my cardio endurance and noticed that with just a little cardio exercise my cardiovascular heath returned with incredible strength.  I didn’t need 30 days to reach my goal.

Lesson: Adjust as you move forward.

2.     Dedication- I am a dedicated learner. Sometimes the learning is easier than others. I think the real question is: What is it you are dedicated to and why? Initially, I would say it was to do the Cardio Challenge. But learning can go much deeper than surface understandings. As always, ask yourself what is it you truly value and are your behaviors matching your desire.

Lesson: Values are great indicators of true direction.

3.     Mental Discipline can override physical well-being.

Lesson: Listen to your heart as it will always lead you closer to the lesson you most need to learn.

4.     Being happy means doing things you love and enjoy.

Lesson: Go out of your comfort zone to experience something new. The feeling you get means you are alive and living.

5.     If it doesn’t feel good, find a new way to do it or knock it off.

Lesson: Be aware of your Ego giving you direction versus your heart.

6.     Commitment and dedication is a great quality but so is allowing things to be simple and easy.

Lesson: Being in the space of allowing is more fun than making things happen.

7.     Rest days are important.

Lesson: Play days allow your mind and body to come into alignment.

8.     Listen to your body— it doesn’t lie.

Lesson: Your body will shout back if you choose not to listen. Mine did!

9.     Laughing is good.

Lesson: Jazzercise— need I say more? When I think of that one hour class… I still laugh!

10. More isn’t always better.

Lesson: Be flexible and willing to change your mind. Sometimes what you originally think you need more of is wrong. If that happens, adjust your course.

For those interested, here is a list of my Cardio Achievements for the last 30 days. Perhaps this will inspire you to live more In Sync and listen more closely to what your body is teaching you.

Day 1- Torrey Pines Trail hike (2 hours)

Day 2-Trail Run (45 minutes)

Day 3- Jump Board on the Pilates Machine (20 minutes-6 sets)

Day 4- 6-mile hike up Iron Mountain (in the heat, I might add)

Day 5- I’m sore so I am going for an easy cycle on the stationary bike :)

Day 6- 30+ Minutes on the Stationary Bike

Day 7- Torrey Pines Hill Repeats

Day 8- 20 Minutes on the Elliptical Machine

Day 9- Jump Board on the Pilates machine (20 minutes -7 sets)

Day 10 – 30 Minutes on the Stationary Bike

Day 11 – 20 Minutes on the Stationary Bike/ 20 Minutes on the Elliptical

Day 12 – 20 Minutes on the bike

Day 13 – 20 Minutes on the Elliptical

Day 14 – 45 Minute Trail Run

Day 15 – 30 Minutes on the bike

Day 16 – 6-mile night Hike (with Wine at the summit)

Day 17 – 20 Minutes on the Pilates Jump Board (8 sets)

Day 18 – Jazzercise Class (60 Minutes of embarrassment)

Day 19 – 20 minute walk around the block

Day 20 – 20 minutes on the Elliptical

Day 21 – Walk with Niko and 20 minutes on the bike

Day 22 – 50-Minute Trail Run

Day 23 – 30-minute walk

Day 24- 20 Minutes on the Elliptical

Day 25 – 20 minute Walk on along the coast

Day 26 – 50 minute trail run

Day 27- 20 minute Walk

Day 28 – 60 minute beach run/Walk

Day 29 – 20 Minute Pilates Jump board (9 sets -3 more than when I started 4 weeks ago!)

Day 30- 45 minute Beautiful Trail run (pictured in this blog)

*** All of this in addition to Isha Yoga Daily, and Pilates 4-5 times a week. ***

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.” — Eckhart Tolle

Living In Sync One Moment At A Time,

Suzanne

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