Sign Of The Times

April 16, 2014 at 10:50 am


Have you ever had that sinking feeling when you realized that you knew something all along? You knew it deep inside of you. You heard the “knowing” but were not actually listening. The realization of your knowing is a sign of the times that you are in transformation.

Transformation is a big term that symbolizes big things happening inside and outside your world. It is your realizations of yourself, those around you and situations that you see.

Equus Coaching is one of those amazing, cool, often transformative experiences. I recently hosted a massive Equus Event. In preparation for the event, my fellow coaches and I went out for a day of play – yes, work can be play!  During the practice, I was in the ring with one of my teachers seen pictured.

As we were playing, the horse took a little snip at my foot. I shooed him away to set a boundary (very important in leadership). As I was talking with the coaches about myself and what my plan was, the horse came up again and took a little snip at my shirt (thinking it was “cute,” I laughed as I set the boundary again — not unusual with leading organizations). I continued with my “plan” and then the horse came up again and took a snip at the back of my shirt. I set the boundary again!  I continued with my plan discussion, and then the horse came up again, and this time took another snip at my knee.

Alright, I thought. What is it that I need to be paying attention to here? It is clearly NOT MY PLAN. This horse is giving me a message. I can either pay attention, or I plan that this horse is going to get my attention my taking a bite next time!!

How often do we tend to our “plans” and forget to pay attention to those annoying little snips that are giving us a message for attention? All too often in organizations, the plan is the priority, and the “bites/snips” are ignored. Those details may seem inconsequential until we take time to reflect (a KEY to developing as a leader).

So the question that I ended up asking myself was “where in my life am I getting bitten in the behind?” Not typically the types of ideas or concepts I enjoy looking at. However, it is important to notice those things that establish patterns in our life. What I discovered was this absolutely “knowing” I had about certain people in my life. Wow… I did a quick inventory of “who was biting me in the butt” and instantly the knowing came to light. The honest answer here is that I didn’t need to address the behavior of the person doing the biting. I need to change my approach (change ALWAYS beings with us first).

I took action immediately, and the annoyance stopped shortly thereafter. Pretty cool, huh?  I was amazed at how this simple, but not easy, reflection started to make my life easier.

The difficult part is this… noticing what you notice. Seeing those patterns in your life that aren’t serving you and begin to change to the way in which you approach them.

Transformation in my opinion starts with honoring our knowing.  The Equus experience was an eye opening, gentle teacher which taught me how I can be the leader in my own life. If you think this lesson is eye opening with a personal insight, imagine how impactful it can be when you apply it to the work life too. It’s incredible.

Being In Sync One Moment at a Time,



Be The Leader of Your Own Life

April 7, 2014 at 11:25 am

Ha!  What the heck does that mean? The terms leader and leadership are thrown around these days like there’s a massive movement. Guess what? There is!

Leading people and organizations would be much easier for people if they learned to listen to their hearts more and their minds less. Don’t get me wrong, I am highly intellectual, and I love intellectual banter as much as the next person. Maybe even more! It’s been because of this high desire to know that I researched this whole idea of following your heart. It’s not the typical research where I have data and statistics (although I am certain those exist to support any idea). My type of research is the best that I have found yet…. Experience!

In my early 20’s, I realized that I was “making it,” as they say. I had become a rat in the rat race. I was making over 6 figures before my 30’s; working easily 6 days a week, over 60 hours (plus or minus a few here and there). I was overweight, yet working out every day. My body was simply not responding. Or was it?

I learned my body was actually sharing with me daily what was working and what wasn’t working for me. I was doing everything I was supposed to do to be happy. Only, I really wasn’t. Then September 11th happened. Life as I knew it changed. Work changed, my life changed.

I took this opportunity of what could have been devastating and leveraged it to make a new path for myself. I made a conscious decision to live my life differently. No longer would money drive my decisions. (Leadership is making uncomfortable decisions for following my knowing).

That single decision changed the course of my life. Being the leader of your own life means to follow your knowing. It means following your heart. It means listening to the deep sense inside of you and following it.

My question to you is this: What decision do you know you need to make? What is it your body is trying to tell you? What will it take for you to make one step in the direction of following your heart?

My data tells me this: you will be happier, more fulfilled, and prosperous in ways you never imagined.

Being In Sync One Moment at a Time,